By Steve Ripley.
On Wed 28 Oct, I joined eight other deafblind members at DBV Café, with support from commguides and interpreters.
Jael and Paul Tatt led a discussion about looking after our mental health.
We all face challenges in life! This was a chance to share what helps us feel good and support each other.
Paul talked about dealing with worries by imagining his mind has separate boxes. He puts each issue in its own box, then deals with them one at a time when he is ready. He also spoke about letting go of issues that are not important to him any more.
We shared many ways we look after ourselves. These included walking with friends, swimming, hydrotherapy and spending time with animals such as horses. Others enjoy music, drumming, audiobooks or karaoke. Craft, knitting and art help some of us relax. Someone also suggested using a punching bag to let out frustration!
A strong message from our discussion was the importance of staying connected. Meeting friends, talking about our experiences or sending a text to ask “Are you OK?” can make a difference. Sharing what we have been through can help someone else.
Paul also spoke about grief and reminded us that it is OK to grieve. Jael explained that our discussion was about what helps us feel good as deafblind people, rather than assuming that being deafblind causes mental health difficulties.
We had plenty of ideas to share, and different things work for different people.
See below for wonderful photos by Robert Lokmer and a video of Heather Lawson talking about how she looks after her mental health with exercise, company and silly jokes.
The next DBV Café is at Ross House on Wed 25 Nov. Hope to see you there!
